by Jill Place, the Acting Intuitive
What’s Gratitude Got to Do with It?
I’m here in San Diego wedged between a glass of Sauvignon Blanc (my preferred wine . . . but actually these days I’m also partial to Viognier) and some French Fries. I’m imbibing both.
I’m here to do a seminar on Facebook marketing at the W hotel downtown. The young men outside absolutely LOVED my restored classic 1983 280ZX. I explained to them that it was a hole in the ground in which I poured money. But also a hole in which I loved digging.
I’m here lounging in the lobby bar with my friend, Jan, who I’ve never met in person until this moment. We’ve been in the same Mastermind group for about a year . . . meeting religiously every Thursday morning on Skype. And, as we sat here, and I swept up her hand to clutch it in the gratitude of the moment, I began to realize how globally grateful I was just to be in her presence. And to be swept up in the swirling tornado of a group of people winding up for a massive energy shift in their careers and lives.
Truth be told, I’m always grateful. Because I know that nothing transforms you like gratitude. And gets you ready for massive shifts in your careers and lives. If you’ve never done any gratitude work, here are some ways to get started to sustain a grateful practice:
The Seven Gratitude Steps
Notice Everything. This morning, I was listening to the news show, Sunday Morning, when I heard Jane Pauley say, “I’m not only seeing the world . . . I notice it.” I can’t tell you how easy it is to find things to be grateful for when you just look around. Jan giggled at me in the room a few hours later because I kept gushing, “I am so GRATEFUL for this view”. We were 13 floors up a few blocks from the ocean.
I’m pretty emotionally and intuitively sensitive from years of acting training and spiritual discipline. But it didn’t all come together for me until I began to literally “stop and smell the roses”. It was the glue that held this complex manifesting matrix all together.
Take a DEEP Breath. Just calming down, calling up a deeper state of consciousness, and, as a result, becoming mentally and physically aware is the second gratitude step. And the way to begin any kind of task where you’re examining and attempting to change any mindset from losing weight to performing.
My favorite form of mediation breathing is very simple . . . breathe in to about two-thirds of your lung capacity, then hold for two beats, then breathe out. A few times should awaken in you just the right amount of awareness for the next step.
Thank the Smallest Thing. Looking around our hotel room later that day, I note Jan’s presence, my Bon Apetit magazine lying here on the bed in which I’m considering the Gluten-Free Chocolate Brownie Cookies, Jan’s Jackson-clone studded gloves atop the dresser, and my awesome Burgundy boots leaning against the chair. I thank each and every one. I’m also grateful for the text I got from the friend taking care of my cat that begins, “Titi hates me . . .” I texted back, unable to suppress a belly-based laugh, “Hey, narcissist . . . this ISN’T about you . . .”
Begin a Practice. There are as many ways as practitioners to do this. I really like the idea in the movie, The Secret, of taking a moment to set an intention to create your day the way you want it to be. And then getting out of bed saying “Thank” with the first footfall and “You” with the second. As well as thanking whatever strikes you on the way to the bathroom and back. So that, by the time you’ve done your morning business, you’ve already said “thank you” hundreds of times.
If you’re into writing, another way to begin a practice is to open a page of your journal . . . or use Evernote or any other note-taking program on your tablet or smart phone. Simply write or say “I am grateful for _____________” and fill in the blank. Complete the process at least 5 to 10 times. I myself am partial to writing in my journal with my favorite pen because I find it more powerful. But whatever way that makes sense to you is the right way.
Do it Every Day. This is probably the most important part of this work. If you do gratitudes daily when you get out of bed, take a few moments to write them down, or find your own way to incorporate this process into your day-to-day existence, you’ll find that things become more fluid in your life.
Not only that, haven’t you ever heard that “thoughts become things?” An attitude of gratitude sets in motion the mechanism of manifesting better than anything I know. In other words, you may find that you ask for something and it happily appears.
Note the Changes. When I first began my morning footfalls, I noticed that small things that I wanted found their way into my life. See what happens when you do the same. Record them in some way. Like posting, “I lost 5 pounds this week!” on a sticky note on your bathroom mirror.
Since it’s still the beginning of 2014, putting an attitude of gratitude in your life this very minute might just be the best thing you do for yourself all year! And Thank YOU for reading.
Gratitude unlocks the fullness of life. It turns what we have into enough, and more. It turns denial into acceptance, chaos to order, confusion to clarity. It can turn a meal into a feast, a house into a home, a stranger into a friend.
~ Melody Beattie, author of Codependent No More