I spent many years absolutely HAAATING auditions. Part of it, I think, was about my insecurity and fear of not being loved. And part of it, I think, was because I absolutely haaated not being chosen, which is a given most of the time. Auditioning is a numbers game; the more you do it the better you are and the more people you get to see until you find that one who thinks you’re absolutely right for the part.
Even if you work a lot and people are saying, “Get me (your name)!”, you’ll always audition as long as you act. I once heard Melissa Gilbert explain that she still had to for every role she got. And she was the darling of Lifetime TV and the president of Screen Actor’s Guild at the time.
The reality is that unless, of course, you become such a big star that they build the movie around you, you’ll be auditioning throughout your whole career. Even if you’re in demand, you may be reading for a variety of reasons. For example, they might want to see if you click with the other actors who are already attached to the project. Or they may want to see if you match them physically. And so on and so on . . .
So I’d suggest that you get over yourself and learn to love the audition process. Bryan Cranston talks about just that in a YouTube video I posted on my Facebook page a while back (here’s the link). He says that most actors wrongly focus upon getting the job. He focuses on the work instead; to him it’s everything. And he was just named as one of Time magazine’s 100 most influential people in the world for 2013. Jon Hamm, the star of Mad Men who wrote the Time article, called Cranston’s performances “fearless”.
If you focus on the joy of creating that story and that character, you’ll never go wrong at an audition. Forget about getting the job. It’s not in your control anyway. Note what you did and how you think it went in your log, tablet or phone and let it go! At least you’ll come away knowing you did the best you can do. That alone should buoy you up until your next audition. As Zoe Saldana’s character in Center Stage says, “I started dancing long before this stupid [audition], and I’m gonna keep on dancing long after it. So tomorrow is one more day I get to dance.”